How to avoid stubborn and rebellious attitudes of teenagers?

"The son no longer listens to me or his mother, but to his rudeness, wandering, wasting time and running after the girls, he understands nothing," complained the father of a teenage boy to his son. Told the counseling specialist.

The teenage boy's dad's hair began to turn white and he was worried about his growing age and his son's deteriorating behavior and went to the person who was counseling about the child's behavior to find a solution to the problem. Were

The councilor asked, "Do you have any other activities besides housework for your wife, ie the boy's mother?" On which he said that he is a social worker, so the father's time was spent in the job and the mother's time was spent in social affairs and the son did not have access to either of them for communication of his feelings, difficulties and issues, friend. The media and mobile phones were his refuge and gradually became a substitute for his parents, which is why his son's rebellious behavior has now disturbed both parents and they are trying their best to get out of this predicament. Are

Remember that it is common for teenagers to feel this way when they are trying to distance themselves from their parents, sometimes because of parental indifference and sometimes because of their own. As a result of changing emotions and feelings, but the reality is that they are more than ever wanting parents to dedicate the best part of their attention, love and time to them.

Parents also have the last chance to make or break their relationship with their children forever, this time we want to tell you some useful things about improving the relationship with your children at such a time. are going to.

Remember that constant communication with children is the only power to improve their personality because teenage life is the most emotional and confusing part of life, so parental advancement, constant Words that communicate and resolve emotions can make children's lives better.

Parents can take a number of steps to communicate better than a teenage child, but keep in mind that it is natural for children and parents to have shorter conversations as they get older, and not just you. Parents are going through this situation.

But in Tage Age, parents can use the following strategies to make communication with their children consistent and effective.

Pay close attention.

The most important thing for children is that you listen to them carefully and talk to them, their emotional radar will immediately know if you are 'really' listening to them or just the head. Shaking and pretending to listen.

Here are some steps you can take to begin the process of preparation for mediation.

1- Sit next to them with love, hold their hand and hug them warmly whenever the opportunity arises.

2- Remove distractions such as TV, mobile or other devices.

3 - When going out of the house, ie to the market or to a relative, talk effectively with the child to meditate and explain.

4 - Continue your 'advancement' despite the rejection of your suggestions and tactics by the teenage child. Lose

5 - Teenagers love art or fun activities, find joint work and games that you can do with them.

6 - Warmly welcome children's friends, find the best time and words to protect and warn against bad friends.

It is not enough just to pay close attention to them and try to guide them, try to understand and listen to the children as well.

Like most parents you should not listen to your children just to talk but try to understand their feelings and emotions, try to find out what their feelings and emotions are, what they want and what they want. Afraid to talk or express emotion.

The following strategies may be effective for this process.

1- Avoid agreement or disagreement and listen to them to understand.

2. Express your child's feelings in your own words so that they realize that you are not only listening to them but also understanding the child's 'inner world'.

3- Control the habit of giving opportunities to give lectures or giving moral advice on everything, otherwise the teenage child will stop listening to you.

4 - Make communication an opportunity to warm up and 'talk' with the child so that they know that you are seeing the world through their eyes.

5 - Know the topics they like, talk about them, talk more and then talk more.

The most important thing is that teenagers make sure to talk to the children because they know that communication with children is the most important and big strategy, through which you can reach out to them and touch their heart. Can win

Here are some tips;

1- Always avoid talking about children's faults and shortcomings and talk about their strengths and weaknesses most of the time. The result of constant negative communication will be that the child will run away from your conversation.

2 - Avoid repeating the same thing, advice and comments, otherwise the child will refuse to 'listen' to the same kind of lectures.

Use alternative token strategies to avoid repetition in this regard, such as 'make some kind of penalty or punishment for not listening once or twice and enforce this punishment instead of giving a lecture'. So that the child understands that the effects of the mistake can be dangerous for them.